Forgiveness is first for you the forgiver, to release you from something that will eat you alive, that will destroy your joy and your ability to love fully and openly.
Though forgiveness does not create a relationship. Unless people speak the truth about what they have done and change their mind and behavior, a relationship of trust is not possible. When you forgive someone you certainly release them from judgment, but without true change no real relationship can be established.
Don't ever discount the wonders of your tears. They can be healing waters and a stream of joy. Sometimes they are the best words the heart can speak.
Always remember; If anything matters then everything matters.
